Days pass by, and we as parents are sometimes left to wonder as to why our child is struggling with school work, sports, and activities and in some extreme cases, even behavioural issues join the club. Righteous duty of us is not to make things perfect for them, but to make them perfect for things. Here are six tips that can help you with this:
#1 Happiness is what one should aim for
Even in our adult life, our ambitions and goals have got such a hold over us that we simply forget the other aspects required to keep us mentally happy. It’s good to strive for excellence but it’s even better to tag along some happiness with it. We shouldn’t pass over much responsibilities to children, it’s a tender age and is meant for fun and happiness. For instance, if you see your child finding a particular subject tormenting, ask them to do something that thrills their soul and you’ll over time notice some improvements in the subjects as well.
#2 You’re always special at something
Not everything in this world is meant for you, but a part of it is. Give some space and time, let him explore and find something that truly intrigues him. If you feel that your child is exceptionally great at something, make sure to harness more of that. Don’t forget to remind him ‘a leap of faith is all that it takes to go beyond.’
#3 Celebration lies in the tiniest of moments
To celebrate, you don’t necessarily need a big reason or achievement to shine through. Finding the same amount of jubilation from the tiniest of tasks and moments would help the child realise the value of how beauty lies within. It’s a great way to boost one’s confidence and helps them in the times of self-doubt.
#4 Mark a line between egoism and self-worth
People, in general, often confuse with these two terms being one. Restricting yourself to break the shell in front of the world, is a catastrophic mistake in my opinion. Self-worth just talks about how ‘YOU SEE YOURSELF AS A PERSON,’ whereas Egoism pretty much overs your unforgiving, restrained personality and attitude. Have some discussions regularly to clear this misinterpretation with your child.
#5 Trust your gut
If ever in a dilemma, sometimes it’s better to go with your gut feeling than to pay attention to some rationale. No one in this world, knows you better than yourself, so if you feel this is the right way to go about it, trust me, it probably is.
#6 You are your competition
A friend of mine was once asked “How do you plan to defeat other in studies?” To my surprise his reply was “I am the competition, not the rest.” Comparing yourself with others in any regard would take you to feel two ways about it, i.e. Inferior or Superior, which isn’t a good trait to have. Let your kid know, if he wants to perform better at something, compare the results with what you were yesterday. The circumstantial situation for every human being is different, hence different outcomes.
It’s okay for them to have doubts, just ensure that they don’t make a habit out of it. Facing issues at an early age might scar them for the rest of their lives and I am pretty sure that’s the road we choose not to follow. We need to accept it, every child has a soft corner yet undiscovered by you and we have to respect it, it’s their wish whether they want to share that part of themselves with us or not.
Guide them, not force. Belief in oneself is what would make them perform at their peak.